Points of view

Preserving another FB post 😃


Proof that everything and everyone can look different depending on your point of view 😃

These 2 photos of me were taken on the same day, the one on the left by talented Jane Bonin of Covershot Classics Portrait Photography, and the one on the right by myself. Both facets are part of who I am — and I like both, by the way.

Same subject, seen by different observers (a professional photographer vs. me, a quality DSLR camera vs. an obsolete iPhone’s camera mounted on a selfie stick), under different circumstances (lighting and setting.)

Whenever you’re in a situation that you find unpleasant, sad, infuriating, or terrible, remember that the perspective you embrace matters. I have learned that over and over again in my own life. If you find it hard to switch your point of view, just ask, I can help 💗💝💗

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Loving what you wished had not happened

This is another FB post that I am “archiving” here:


My life has had its fair share of painful events. With hindsight, several years after the facts, I have come to realize what immense blessings these experiences have been. So what Stephen Colbert said truly resonated with me!

Just to give you a few examples, I have gained something significant almost every time a serious illness happened to my cats (i.e. my babies) or to me:

Richie led me to discover holistic medicine. Zoe pushed me to find Tong Ren therapy (she lived 2 or 3 years longer than expected, and enjoyed good quality of life during that time.) Thanks to Bisi, not only I became aware of the healing power of tuning forks, but I also became more conscious of the depth and breadth of my own healing talents.

As to my experience with breast cancer, it allowed me to grow spiritually and emotionally by giant leaps and bounds. My view of life on Earth changed the instant I felt the lump. I learned to more fully receive love and help. I made progress in being my authentic self (it takes a lot of energy to put up a façade.) I found out I was much stronger than I had thought, and I acquired more gratitude.

Having gone through all that, I love helping people live a more meaningful and fulfilling life. If that’s something you are yearning for, I can lend a hand, just ask 🌟💛🌼

Look for the good in the bad

I initially posted this on Facebook. While FB is great for many things, I sometimes have trouble finding specific posts published a while back. So I am re-posting it here:

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Our lives are filled with innumerable blessings, whether we are aware of them or not.

A long time ago, a cat I loved very much got sick, and died after about a year of me trying my desperate best to find a holistic way to save him — it had become clear very quickly that conventional medicine wasn’t going to help in that situation. I was devastated at the time, and it took me 3 years before I could say I recovered. Little did I know at the time, I was being lovingly prepared to transition from a career in corporate America to a life that’s infinitely more fulfilling spiritually and emotionally than anything my mind could have imagined.

That realization took at least 10 more years after the 3 years of grief. As I write this, I am filled with gratitude for the way my life has unfolded 🙏🙏🙏

This is NOT to say that blessings always come accompanied by trauma, or that it would always take you that long to become aware of them. I am also not implying that conventional medicine is inherently bad, or inherently good — nothing works for everyone all the time, that’s just the way it is. My purpose in telling my story is to invite you to look at your current reality from a different perspective. And if you find it hard to shift your point of view, I can help, just ask 💖💖💖


The man, the boy, and the donkey

The moral of this Æsop’s fable is: Try to please everyone, and you will please no one.


A man and his son were once going with their donkey to market. As they were walking along by his side a countryman passed them and said, “You fools, what is a donkey for but to ride upon?” So the man put the boy on the donkey, and they went on their way.

But soon they passed a group of men, one of whom said, “See that lazy youngster, he lets his father walk while he rides.”

So the man ordered his boy to get off, and got on himself. But they hadn’t gone far when they passed two women, one of whom said to the other, “Shame on that lazy lout to let his poor little son trudge along.”

Well, the man didn’t know what to do, but at last he took his boy up before him on the donkey. By this time they had come to the town, and the passersby began to jeer and point at them. The man stopped and asked what they were scoffing at.

The men said, “Aren’t you ashamed of yourself for overloading that poor donkey of yours − you and your hulking son?”

The man and boy got off and tried to think what to do. They thought and they thought, until at last they cut down a pole, tied the donkey’s feet to it, and raised the pole and the donkey to their shoulders. They went along amid the laughter of all who met them until they came to a bridge, when the donkey, getting one of his feet loose, kicked out and caused the boy to drop his end of the pole. In the struggle the donkey fell over the bridge, and his forefeet being tied together, he was drowned.

Try to please everyone, and you will please no one.

− My gratitude to Michael Port, who introduced me to this story in his book Book Yourself Solid. He also provided an alternative moral that I really loved: “If you try to please everyone, you might as well kiss your ass goodbye.😂😂😂

− Thank you, pitt.edu! This is where I found the fable itself: https://www.pitt.edu/~dash/type1215.html#aesop

-If you are a people pleaser, and you are choosing to do something about it, please know there are many possibilities available to you. Contact me (Sophie) for a private session, either remotely or in person, by emailing  sld8@mail.com or by calling my landline 919-785-0801! 💖

Messages from the LIGHT

I was looking through some of the quotes I have posted on Facebook, and I must admit, I am impressed with my picks and with how relevant they are to the current state of the world 😃


Things are sometimes the opposite of what they appear to be.


Great things are happening! Do you wonder how you can contribute to the world?


What you resist (and judge) will persist. So stop judging. That doesn’t mean, however, that you do nothing. Be peace.


Be light, and be love.


Peace, light, and love to all of you 💖💖💖

The paradox of our time — Wisdom from George Carlin

This is an oldie but goodie!


“The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but shorter tempers, wider freeways, but narrower viewpoints.

We spend more, but have less, we buy more, but enjoy less.

We have bigger houses and smaller families, more conveniences, but less time.

We have more degrees but less sense, more knowledge, but less judgment, more experts, yet more problems, more medicine, but less wellness.

We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up   too tired, read too little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom.

We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values.

We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often.

We’ve learned how to make a living, but not a life. We’ve added years to life not life to years.

We’ve been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbor.

We conquered outer space but not inner space.   We’ve done larger things, but not better things.

We’ve cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul. We’ve conquered the atom, but not our prejudice.

We write more, but learn less. We plan more, but accomplish less. We’ve learned to rush, but not to wait.

We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less.

These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion, big men and small character, steep profits and shallow relationships.

These are the days of  two incomes but more divorce, fancier houses, but broken homes.

These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, one night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill.

It is a time when there is much in the showroom window and nothing in the stockroom.

Remember, spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going to be around forever.

Remember, say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side.

Remember, to give a warm hug to the one next to you, because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn’t cost a cent.

Remember, to say,”I love you” to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all, mean it.

A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you.

Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person will not be there again.

Give time to love, give time to speak, and give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind.


1. Throw out nonessential numbers. This includes age, weight and height. Let the doctor worry about them. That is why you pay him/her.

2. Keep only cheerful friends. The grouches pull you down.

3. Keep learning. Learn more about the computer, crafts, gardening, whatever. Never let the brain idle. “An idle mind is the devil’s workshop.”

4. Enjoy the simple things.

5. Laugh often, long and loud. Laugh until you gasp for breath.

6. The tears happen. Endure, grieve, and move on. The only person who is with us our entire life, is ourselves. Be ALIVE while you are alive.

7. Surround yourself with what you love, whether it’s family, pets, keepsakes, music, plants, and hobbies, whatever. Your home is your refuge.

8. Cherish your health: If it is good, preserve it. If it is unstable, improve it. If it is beyond what you can improve, get help.

9. Don’t take guilt trips. Take a trip to the mall, to the next county, to a foreign country, but NOT to where the guilt is.

10. Tell the people you love that you love them, at every opportunity.

AND ALWAYS REMEMBER: Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.”

—George Carlin.

The Acknowledgement Section

I found this story  while cleaning out my email folders, and it’s so good, I chose to post it here.  Big thanks to my friend J for sending it to me originally, and to the author, whoever he/she is!


I dreamt that I went to Heaven and an angel was showing me around. We walked side-by-side inside a large workroom filled with angels.

My angel guide stopped in front of the first section and said, “This is the Receiving Section here, all petitions to God said in prayer are received here.”

I looked around in this area, and it was terribly busy with so many angels sorting out petitions written on voluminous paper sheets and scraps from people all over the world.

Then we moved on down a long corridor until we reached the second section.

The angel then said to me, “This is the Packaging and Delivery Section. Here, the graces and blessings the people asked for are processed and delivered to the living persons who asked for them.”

I noticed again how busy it was there. There were many angels working hard at that station, since so many blessings had been requested and were being packaged for delivery to Earth.

Finally at the farthest end of the long corridor we stopped at the door of a very small station. To my great surprise, only one angel was seated there, idly doing nothing. “This is the Acknowledgment Section,” my angel friend quietly admitted to me. He seemed embarrassed. “How is it that there is no work going on here?” I asked.

“So sad,” the angel sighed. “After people receive the blessings that they asked for, very few send back acknowledgments.”

“How does one acknowledge God’s blessings?” I asked.

“Simple,” the angel answered. Just say, “Thank you, Lord.”

“What blessings should they acknowledge?” I asked.

“If you have food in the refrigerator, clothes on your back, a roof overhead and a place to sleep you are richer than 75% of this world. If you have money in the bank, in your wallet, and spare change in a dish, you are among the top 8% of the worlds wealthy. And if you get this on your own computer, you are part of the 1% in the world who has that opportunity.”

“If you woke up this morning with more health than illness …you are more blessed than the many who will not even survive this day.”

“If you have never experienced the fear in battle, the loneliness of imprisonment, the agony of torture, or the pangs of starvation…you are ahead of 700 million people in the world.”

“If you can attend a church without the fear of harassment, arrest, torture or death you are envied by, and more blessed than, three billion people in the world.”

“If your parents are still alive and still married…you are very rare.”

“If you can hold your head up and smile, you are not the norm, you’re unique to all those in doubt and despair.”

The following was also included in the message. It’s more appropriate as part of an email, rather than as part of a blog post, but it’s worthy of being included here:

If you can read this message, you just received a double blessing in that someone was thinking of you as very special and you are more blessed than over two billion people in the world who cannot read at all.

Have a good day, count your blessings, and if you want, pass this along to remind everyone else how blessed we all are.

ATTN: Acknowledgement Dept.: “Thank you Lord, for giving me the ability to share this message and for giving me so many wonderful people to share it with.”



End of the year reflections and wishes

As I was cleaning up old emails, I came across one I wrote 3 years ago. Amazingly enough, it still applies! 🙂  So I am re-using it, with a few edits, to wish you a wondrous holiday season and a phenomenal New Year:

Dear magnificent ones,

December is here, so I send you my love and warm wishes for a happy holiday season, no matter which holiday or holidays you celebrate: Hanukkah, Christmas, Kwanzaa, …etc. I also wish you a golden and joyful New Year.

In this new year, there will be ever more light and more support for you, no matter what you choose to be or do.


Do you choose joy?  Do you choose abundance? Do you choose to love ALL of you, the light side as well as the shadow side?  Do you choose to be potent? Do you choose to know how potent you are? Do you choose to show the world how magnificent you truly are? 

Do you choose to see/feel God in everything (and in you especially?) Do you choose to not feel separate?  Do you choose to not be right AND not be wrong? Do you choose to not judge yourself? 

Or do you choose the opposite of all that? You could, by the way. You are loved and supported always, always, always. No matter what.

If you choose to shine brightly in all your glory, keep asking the universe: How does it get any better than this, and what else is possible?

Infinite love and gratitude to you, as we celebrate the end of 2015, and dance and sing through 2016.


What else is possible?

October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month. Let’s talk about cancer in general. Do you wonder what can be done beyond the conventional chemotherapy, radiation, and surgery?

Please let me be clear: everyone is entitled to choose the therapy(ies) they choose, and I support their right to do so. I am also grateful to everyone who supports cancer research or cancer patients with their donations, their participation in various fundraisers, and/or their volunteer work. Especially if they thought of me as they were doing it. I can’t thank enough all the family members, friends, doctors, nurses, and total strangers who supported me while I was going through the cancer experience 8 years ago! ♥♥♥


That said, IF someone is wondering what else is possible, I’d like to say that yes, there are other possibilities! I have been interested in holistic methods of dealing with cancer ever since my own experience with this disease, and I can tell you that I would have done things differently had I known then what I know today.

P.S. No, I am not a doctor. No, I am not promising a cure. I am simply offering my personal point of view in this blog, and you can ignore it if you like 🙂

The above statements have not been evaluated nor approved by the Food and Drug Administration. I am NOT a physician, and do not diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease. The information on this site is NOT a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. All content in this web site is for general information purposes only. Please consult a medical practitioner for any physical or mental complaints you may have. Services and products offered through this web site are for general information purposes only, and are not offered as medical or psychological advice, guidance or treatment.

Water, water, water!

People often ask me where I get my drinking water from. They also mention how good my water tastes. One person even refills his portable bottle at my house when he visits me 🙂


I am no expert on this matter. I can only tell you what I do, and I am NOT claiming that it’s the best way!

I start with a whole house water filter in my crawl space, which treats ALL the water coming into my house (from the city of Raleigh, NC.) Many years ago I bought an additional Nikken Aqua Pour water filter for my kitchen. So my drinking water is filtered twice.

I also put quartz and rose quartz crystals in the Aqua Pour main compartment to add crystal energy to the water, and I pasted these words on the outside: “creativity“, “guidance“, “love“, “gratitude“, “health“, and “joy“.

In addition, since I am a Reiki Master, I put Reiki symbols in the water whenever I top up the Aqua Pour, and again after I pour the water into a glass.

All this might sound like a lot of work, but it isn’t once the set up is done. The crystals just stay inside the filter compartment. Entering the Reiki symbols in the water only take a few seconds.

Once in a while I do have to clean the Aqua Pour itself, and change the filter part. I’d say that overall it’s not any more work than any other method.

What do YOU do?

Note: I am not a Nikken distributor, and they are not paying me to mention their name 🙂